Defined by Infertility

As I sit inside a quirky little coffee shop, overlooking the manic streets of the city, I people watch. I watch men walk past in their suits and their ties, notebook in one hand, lit cigarette in the other. As they walk the smoke trails behind them, into the face of a woman. She is […]

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The Loneliness of Infertility

When you first start trying to conceive, you don’t anticipate that you may be infertile. You don’t anticipate hours spent in doctors offices, invasive scans, alarms every morning reminding you to take your basal body temperature, ovulation charts and constant negative tests. Infertility isn’t even remotely on your radar. Your friends fall pregnant just by […]

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Thoughtful gifts for your friend going through IVF

With 1 in 6 couples staring in the face of infertility, chances are you know someone, or will know someone, or even are someone, who will need IVF. When our friends or family go through a hard time or have a major life event occur, we often want to buy them a gift to show […]

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It’s a Crying Shame

It’s a crying shame is a campaign lead by the fantastic Fertility Network UK, in a bid to provide support for those going through fertility issues when they need support the most. Even if you do not read this blog post, please head to Fertility Network’s page and donate to help support those dealing with […]

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A letter to my future child, love your infertile mother

Hi, my baby, You haven’t met me yet but I am your Mummy. I have been thinking about you for about 4 and a half years now, doing everything in my power to bring you into my life but unfortunately life has a funny way of working and it’s taking us a little bit longer […]

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Learning from my Infertility: One Year On

Tomorrow marks 365 days since I had my laparoscopy and found out I had two fully blocked Fallopian tubes. I truly cannot believe how quickly the last 12 months have gone; it seems like Christmas was only yesterday. When I realised on the 1st September that it had been almost a year since the day […]

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10 things NOT to say to someone struggling with fertility!

Have you ever had a friend tell you something and you’ve not known how to respond in a manner that will comfort them? Flip the coin, have you ever told a friend something personal and they’ve responded in a way that’s hurt? Most of the time, insensitive comments aren’t meant to hurt, however they do, […]

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A letter to my infertile self

Dear Amber, I’m writing this from 2019, at a point in this journey where you are learning to accept the fact you are infertile. Kind of. The last 4, nearly 5, years have been hard work, but you’re finally coming out the other side. You’re still without child, but you are married to a man […]

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The NHS IVF postcode lottery: my story.

I don’t know where to start. I have deleted my opening line 8 times before deciding I will just write. I am infertile. When you decide to start trying for a baby, you expect to be pregnant within a few months. You hear stories of women, or men, who cannot conceive and you think it […]

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